Friday, May 25, 2012



A Good, True and Beautiful Life

At the end of the heart wrenching WW2 movie, Saving Private Ryan, Ryan visits the American cemetery in Normandy with his family. Looking at the grave of the man who died saving his life, he pleads with his wife, “Tell me that I’ve lived a good life. Tell me that I’m a good man.”

How do you know if you’ve lived a good life? The Greek philosopher Plato gave a three point checklist in “the good, the true and the beautiful.”

The good is the ethical. The true is reason and science. The beautiful is art and self expression. The most fulfilling life will blend all three; where your passion matches your skill and the needs around you in a perfect storm of goodness.

To read out more about each of these three qualities, follow these links

Click here for the true
Click here for the good
Click here for the beautiful
  
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Friday, April 27, 2012

Putting Heart into Eco-activism

In honor of earth day, I wrote this five part series on eco-activism. Please follow any links that are of interest.

1. Putting heart back into earth care.
2. Facing up to the reality of climate change.
3. Getting up close and personal with the earth.
4. Taking a cosmic perspective on the earth.
5. Learning perseverance from nature.

May you remember that without darkness nothing comes to birth, as without light nothing flowers.
May the earth teach you courage as the tree which stands tall and strong.
May nature teach you perseverance like green grass in concrete.

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Thursday, April 19, 2012

Titanic Lessons


The story of the Titanic is every person’s story.It is a story of human struggle, and yet it’s also the story of overcoming struggle.

In this week's articles, I explore the lessons from the Titanic as they relate to life today.
1. Hubris (arrogant self sufficiency) especially as it relates to earth issues. Read more here.
2. The Human spirit especially as it relates to courage and perseverance. Read more here.

The story is rich in wisdom and meaning even 100 years later. Im sure you will find meaning in thinking about the Titanic along with me in these articles.

Leonard di Caprio summed it all up nicely in this quote-

I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next. You learn to take life as it comes at you... to make each day count. Leonardo Di Caprio

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Monday, April 2, 2012

The Wisdom of Folly





Mark Twain said, “The first of April is the day we remember what we are the other 364 days of the year."

His point is that we’re fools EVERY day. On April 1 we stop to appreciate the wisdom of folly and the gift of surprise.

It’s a rare occurrence for April Fool’s Day to fall on a Sunday, and even rarer for it to fall on Palm Sunday. It’s the perfect storm of shifting perspectives. Where did the idea of April Fools come from? It likely goes back to when the New Year was connected to the beginning of Spring rather than January 1. In 1564, France moved New Year to January 1. But news travelled slowly and many country folk didn’t realize. So French city dwellers pulled pranks on naïve country dwellers by sticking paper fish on their backs, and so it became a national holiday called April’s Fish, or April Fool’s Day. April Fools is so popular in Scotland that they run it for two days, the second day is totally dedicated to pranks involving the backside. Kick me signs are common. So if you visit Scotland in April, watch out or you might end up the butt of someone’s joke.

I have to say, I’m right behind the Scottish ritual. I like their cheek. And I like the idea of setting aside a day where we have permission to kick each other’s butts, physically, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually. Not in a cruel or heartless way, but to remind each other to get off our butts, get active and not to take ourselves too seriously in the process.

There are so many challenges in the world, so much suffering and so much need. Personal responsibility is paramount. The future of the world is in our hands. Each of us basically has a couple of decades to find our passion, make a mark on the world and get busy making a difference. That’s a lot of pressure and a lot of responsibility. Both April Fool’s Day and The Palm Sunday kick the butt of your passion, and question how you plan to effect change. You won’t have fun all the time, and obviously we all work through tough times, but if there is a quality of joy and cheeky determination to the way you do your work it will be so much more effective.

The inner trickster comes out to play on April Fools Day and tickles your ego with the feather of surprise to remind you not to let the power go to your head, not to become overwhelmed with the burden of choice and not to get locked into perspectives. Perspective is like a deck of cards. Choice is an ace up your sleeve, the card that responsibility pulls out when the deck seems stacked against you. In the game of life, it’s always your move and there are always more options than you realize. You have multiple plays, diverse skills, and creative strategies to regroup and respond in the best way possible. Whenever it starts to feel heavy or joyless, you can always play the joker and lighten your own load. This is the wisdom of folly.

The Sufi trickster Nasrudin went every day to beg at the market. People made fun of him by playing a trick: they would show him two coins, one worth ten times more than the other, and Nasrudin would always choose the smaller coin. The story went round the whole province. Day after day, groups of men and women would show him the two coins, and Nasrudin would always choose the smaller one. Then one day, a generous man, tired of seeing Nasrudin ridiculed in this fashion, beckoned him over to a corner of the square and said: ‘When they offer you two coins, you should choose the larger one. That way you would earn more money and people wouldn’t consider you an idiot.’
‘That sounds like good advice,’ replied Nasrudin, ‘but if I chose the larger coin, people would stop offering me money, because they like to believe that I am even more stupid than they are. You’ve no idea how much money I’ve earned using this trick.
There’s nothing wrong with looking like a fool if, in fact, you’re being really clever.

The trickster is a mythological character in many traditions. The trickster is more than a hero, whose self confidence and skill wins the day and not quite the joker who is able to find the light side in a situation. The trickster appears clueless but gets results, like Sacha Baron-Cohen asking a priest at a pro life rally if he was aborted when he was younger, or Michael Moore wrapping Wall Street in crime scene tape. The trickster paints the world in a new light.

Byrd Gibbens said,
Humans had to have tricksters within the most sacred ceremonies for fear that they forget the sacred comes through upset, reversal, surprise. 

In one classic trickster story from Africa, a village trickster taught two friends a lesson in perspective. The two friends had houses that faced each other, both with nice gardens and a path that ran between them.
The trickster dressed in a two-color shirt that was divided down the middle, black on one side and blue on the other side.  He then walked along the narrow path between their houses
The two friends were each working across from one another in their gardens.  The trickster made a lot of noise to attract their attention as he walked the path.
At the end of the day, one friend said to the other, “Wasn’t it strange the way that guy with the black shirt walked right down our path making so much noise?”  His friend replied, “Yes, it was strange.  But he had a blue shirt on.”
They started arguing about the color of the trickster’s shirt. “It was black.”  “Blue,” shouted the other.  “Black!”  “Blue!”  “Black!”  “Blue!”
Just then the trickster returned, walking back along the path between them.  The two friends stopped and stared.  Now they saw only the other side of the trickster’s shirt.
The first friend quickly apologized.  “I am so sorry, my friend.  I don’t know how I could have been so mistaken.  You are right. His shirt is blue.”  And his friend said, “Oh, no, I apologize.  You were right.  The strange fellow’s shirt was clearly black as you said!”
Then they both stopped and frowned at each other.  They both thought the other was mocking him. They began to wrestle and roll on the ground fighting.
Just then the trickster returned and faced the two men who were punching and kicking each other and shouting, “Our friendship is over!”  The trickster walked right in front of them, displaying his two-color shirt.  He laughed and danced around because of their silly fight.
The two friends saw that his shirt was divided right down the middle, both black and bright blue.  They stopped fighting and stood silently.  They turned to each other and both said, “I’m sorry.” They had both been right, and they had both been wrong. It was all about perspective. From that day, when either one said something the other disagreed with, they would listen to one another.  Different views could indeed both be true, and partly wrong at the same time.  Each person has a different perspective, a different point of view. Their friendship became unbreakable.

The role of the trickster is to remind you that life is rarely one way or another. It ebbs and flows from one extreme to another. I heard about an April Fool’s prank at a hospital maternity ward. On the entrance door, they put the sign, “Push. Push. Push.” On the door of the Sperm Bank along the corridor was the sign, “Pull. Pull. Pull.”

You’ve got to respect the push and pull of life. Life is never all one way or another. Its joy and pain, independence and connection, action and acceptance, yin and yang. The trickster occasionally visits to remind us that we only have a partial view of life and not to get locked into conclusions. There is always more. If you’re pushing too hard, the trickster tickles your ego until you have to let go. The trickster is within, always prodding your expectations, popping the bubble of your assumptions and shining light on new possibilities.

Author Christopher Paolini said,
The trickster, the riddler, the keeper of balance, he of the many faces who finds life in death and who fears no evil; he who walks through doors.

Palm Sunday and Creative Protest
Let me see if I can offer a slightly different take on Palm Sunday, the story of Jesus riding into Jerusalem on a donkey before his execution. The story seems to emphasize the trickster side of Jesus’ character. It’s intended to kick your butt. Think about the donkey in the story, and another trickster donkey, the donkey in Shrek.

In the beginning of the move Shrek, the king’s soldiers are buying up all the fairy tale creatures. A woman comes forward to sell a donkey. “I’ve got a talking donkey,” she says. The donkey refuses to speak. The woman says, “Go ahead, say something.” The guard isn’t buying it and tells his men to take her away. But they knock over a container of fairy dust that flies into the air and then lands on the donkey. He begins to float up into the air. Donkey says, “Hey, I can fly!” The crowd is amazed. The guard says, “He can talk.” Donkey responds, “That’s right fool. Now I’m a flying—talking donkey. Maybe you’ve seen a housefly or a maybe even a superfly, but I bet you never saw a donkey fly.” At that point he begins to drop back to the ground. As he lands he runs for his life, with the guards in hot pursuit. The only thing that saves him is running into Shrek, the ogre, who scares all the guards away. From that moment on, Donkey doesn’t stop talking. At one point later in the movie, Shrek is so tired of listening to Donkey’s nonstop chatter he says, “Maybe there’s a good reason why donkeys don’t talk.”

It’s not healthy to live in a Disney style fantasy world. Donkeys DON’T talk. People DON’T rise from the dead. The trickster in the story, whether its Shrek or Palm Sunday, bypasses the literal details. The multiple versions and many inconsistencies in the Palm Sunday story make an ass out of anyone who tries to take it literally. Just a quick snapshot will give you a sense. The different versions of the story don’t gel. Some of them include just a donkey and some have a donkey and a colt. How can one man ride both a donkey and a colt? Then there are the palms. Some versions have people waving leafy branches. Others have people laying their clothes on the road. One version took place in Spring. Another took place in Fall.  The trickster has other interests. It wants to excite your inner activist’s imagination. It encourages you to consider the power of creative activism.

The story is told of the Sufi trickster Nasrudin.
Every month he brought a caravan of donkeys into Persia from the East, laden with goods. The government inspector becomes suspicious, sensing that the Mullah is smuggling something into the country, while avoiding taxes. But he can’t seem to find it. He goes through every item in every bag, and still he can’t discover what it is. This goes on month after month and he increasingly becomes convinced that the Mullah is a smuggler, but he is never able to catch him.

After some years the government inspector retires. He then confronts Nasrudin: He says, “all these years I’ve inspected your caravans bringing goods into our country. I know that you are smuggling goods, but I haven’t been able to find what they are. Now I haven’t the power any longer to prosecute you, would you tell me, just to give an old man some rest, what it is that you are smuggling?”
After a moments pause, Nasrudin replies, “Donkeys, inspector, I’ve been smuggling donkeys.”
Not that I’m encouraging illegal activity or smuggling. Apply the same creative thinking to constructive activism and protest. 


The most effective protests include an element of surprise, like riding into a major city on a donkey. A few years ago, a female contortionist curled herself up in a transparent suitcase. Someone placed her on the baggage conveyor at a European airport. She was protesting human trafficking. The Free Hugs movement is another creative protest, challenging the mindless and heartless lifestyle we so often live.

Another one of my favorite protests was from a group in New Zealand called Madge, Mothers Against Genetic Engineering. We lived next door to the woman who started it. She and her husband were two parts of the 80s pop group The Thompson Twins.  Madge used some very eye catching protests. A group of Madge women got into the New Zealand parliament and stripped down to their pink undies and bras, to serve notice that they should take these women and their concern for food safety seriously. Madge also placed billboards around town of a woman with four breasts, being milked, the point being that if you are going to design the milk we feed our children, why not just design women to produce the milk.

The protest that I especially loved was when a group of women went to the local store. They all filled up shopping trolleys and went to the check out. They timed it so that they were next in each line. Once they had unloaded all their stuff on the checkout counters, they walked out, effectively bringing the store to a standstill. Their message was that women have purchasing power and their demands need to be taken seriously.
In more extreme actions, people set themselves on fire to create the element of surprise (shock!) in their protests. At least 30 Tibetans have burnt themselves to death in China so far this year to protest Chinese rule in Tibet. Not to forget the Tunisian fruit seller who set himself on fire and launched the Arab Spring.
What issues fire you up? What causes capture your imagination and your full conviction? Work out what makes your blood boil and get active. You WILL offend people in the process. You can’t be both an activist and universally loved. But the people who get you will stay with you, and the people who don’t get you were likely never with you to begin with.

Trickster and Appearances
One of the things we get locked into is expectations and appearances. The lesson of the trickster is that things are not always as they appear. A great prophet riding on a donkey is not quite the picture you expect. The Palm Sunday story tells us that Jesus wept when he saw the city of Jerusalem. He was overcome with grief and anger. He both wept and he rode in to Jerusalem as trickster activist. Therein lies the balance. Tears and surprise. Compassion and skill. Intensity and humility. Focus and perspective.

What’s the relevance today? Think about this in terms of the death of Trayvon Martin in Florida last month. We spend most of our energy talking about WHO killed Trayvon. In a brilliant eulogy that MLK gave at a white Unitarian pastor’s funeral, Dr King said the better question is WHAT killed Pastor James Reeb and in this case WHAT killed Trayvon Martin. One man pulled the trigger and needs to be brought to justice. One state struggles with some absurd and oppressive laws and needs to be challenged. But we ALL killed Trayvon Martin because we ALL play a part in perpetuating a culture based on appearance and prejudice. We need compassion, indignation and self reflection.

This is what Dr King said in his eulogy in 1965-
James Reeb was murdered by the indifference of every minister of the gospel who has remained silent behind the safe security of stained glass windows. He was murdered by the irrelevancy of a church that will stand amid social evil and serve as a taillight rather than a headlight, an echo rather than a voice. He was murdered by the irresponsibility of every politician who has moved down the path of demagoguery, who has fed his constituents the stale bread of hatred and the spoiled meat of racism. He was murdered by the brutality of every sheriff and law enforcement agent who practices lawlessness in the name of law. He was murdered by the timidity of a federal government that can spend millions of dollars a day to keep troops in South Vietnam, yet cannot protect the lives of its own citizens seeking constitutional rights. Yes, he was even murdered by the cowardice of every Negro who tacitly accepts the evil system of segregation, who stands on the sidelines in the midst of a mighty struggle for justice...

Powerful words! He questions the whole culture of hypocrisy, prejudice and indifference. King was no trickster. He was in the hero category, pure passion and intensity. The trickster directs the light back on unseen, individual prejudice. The point is made by the Sufi trickster Nasrudin.
“What is Fate?" Nasrudin was asked by a Scholar.
"An endless succession of intertwined events, each influencing the other."
The scholar answered, "That is hardly a satisfactory answer. I believe in cause and effect."
"Very well," said Nasrudin, "look at that." He pointed to a procession passing in the street.
"That man is being taken to be hanged. Is that because someone gave him a silver piece and enabled him to buy the knife with which he committed the murder; or because someone saw him do it; or because nobody stopped him?"

When you look at the injustices of the world, both weep AND get creative. We can’t solve the problems of the world with the same type of thinking that created them. We can’t conquer despair with more despair. We can’t beat violence with more violence. We can’t beat hatred with hatred.
We beat despair, hatred and violence when we overcome thought patterns and systems based in prejudice, beginning with our own minds.

Let the trickster kick your butt this year. What sort of a world do you want to live in? What are you going to do about it? How are you going to do it? Find your passion and get to work. When your self aware passion coincides with the world's needs, the effect is phenomenal.

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Wednesday, March 7, 2012

No Time For Superstition

Two robbers are ransacking an apartment. They hear noises at the door. The first thief says, “Oh no! The police are here. Quick! Jump out of the window!.”
The second thief says, “You’ve got to be kidding. This is the 13th floor.”

The first thief says, “Come on. Move it. This is no time to get superstitious.”

My theme is superstition; the good, the bad, and the lucky. Are you superstitious? What are your quirky superstitions? What do you see as both the value of superstition, and the downside?

I don’t know about you but before I get out of bed in the morning I cross all my fingers and toes, clutch my rabbit’s foot and thank my lucky stars that I’m not superstitious. Then I reach down for my left slipper, knock on wood, turn the handle on my bedroom door counter clockwise, walk down the hall way avoiding all the cracks to preserve my mother’s back and get on with the day. Thank goodness I’m not superstitious. It’s bad luck to be superstitious. In all seriousness, while I see the reasons behind superstition, I don’t think this is the time to be getting more superstitious. This is the time for honest enquiry, personal responsibility, common sense and a direct experience of all the beauty and meaning that is here and now. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

What is superstition? There tend to be two aspects to superstition; meaningful patterns and a belief in supernatural cause and effect.

1. Meaningful Patterns

Part of superstition is the tendency to find patterns or create cause and effect connections between an event and a consequence. For example if I walk under this ladder, something awful will happen. If I see a black cat, it will be bad luck. Touching wood, blessing people after they sneeze, and the number 13 are all examples of enduring superstitions. Did you know that 80% of elevators around the world do not contain a button for the 13th floor?

What are your superstitions? When I was a kid, I believed there were monsters under the sheets at the end of my bed. I also believed that if I pedaled as if I was riding a bike that the monsters would never get near me. This was generally working for me, but I wasn’t sure what to do about going to sleep. So I added a new rule. I decided that pedaling had a cumulative effect. So for every pedal the monster was pushed back a step. If I pedaled really hard and fast for several minutes, I could create enough pedal credit to keep the monsters at bay for hours.

The cumulative effect of superstitions is that the longer you believe them, the more evidence you have that they are working. To this day I have never been attacked by a monster in bed, aside from the occasional restless leg outburst from Meg. This is the power of the human mind to join the dots between experience and meaning. If I HAD been attacked by a monster in bed, I could just as easily conclude that it was because I was pedaling my legs. So then I could create a new superstition to stay very still and see if that was more effective.

The point is that the human mind is creative when it comes to superstitions, experience and meaning. As British author Daniel Tammet, who incidentally has autism and savant syndrome, wrote,

Moment by moment throughout our lifetime, our brains hum with the work of making meaning: weaving together many thousands of threads of information into all manner of thoughts, feelings, memories, and ideas. (from Embracing the Wide Sky, 2009)

As an adult, I no longer believe in monsters. But I still have my superstitions. When flying, I ALWAYS tilt my armrest upwards during takeoff as if I’m actually helping to fly the plane. The pilot can’t do it without me. The incredible thing is that to this day, hundreds of flights later, it has worked every time. I have never been on a plane that has failed to take off.

2. Supernatural Agency

Once we join the dots in our mind, the next tendency is to draw conclusions about the wizard behind the curtain; who is the masked man, woman or super power behind the mysterious connectedness of the universe. So the second aspect of superstition is that there is usually someone pulling the strings of superstition. Do you remember the 1980’s cult movie The Gods Must Be Crazy? A primitive Kalihari tribe believe that everything that happens is directed by the gods. When they hear the sound of thunder but see no clouds, they assume that the gods have eaten too much and their tummies are rumbling. When they see the trail of airplanes, they believe that the gods have flatulence.

Is it even possible to be religious without being superstitious? Is it possible to believe in God without being superstitious? We’ve all seen superstition in extreme forms of religion, for example Mitt Romney’s family reportedly arranging for his dead father in law to be baptized into the Mormon faith…posthumously. Romney’s father in law, Edward Davies was a prominent atheist in his day. As Bill Maher said, he was probably hard to baptize because he was squirming in his grave. This is part of a fairly widespread practice of baptizing the dead souls of people of other faiths or no faith, including Holocaust survivors. It’s extremely offensive in its implications and superstitious to the nth degree. This is an extreme form of religion. What about more moderate religion?

As someone who was raised in a moderate, evangelical, Christian tradition, I was taught to be very skeptical about superstition. I was taught that superstition is a tool of the devil and not to trust any paranormal, or new age, spirituality. Evangelicals say that the only reliable revelation from God is in the Bible. This is highly superstitious to imagine that an unseen being zapped the words of the Bible through the minds, mouths and quills of ancient authors, as a divine mandate for all time. So evangelicals use their superstitious worldview to critique new age superstition. The moderate religious perspective is full of its own superstitions.

It seems to me that the whole notion of a religious worldview is based in superstition. The belief in God or spirits, the belief in an afterlife, the belief in prayer and divine intervention, and a divinely inspired Bible, are all superstitions. What many people mean by spiritual is also based in superstition. The beliefs that there are unseen spirits, or communication with the dead, or that humans have souls, and that the universe is alive with unseen powers guiding our lives, are all superstitions.

Why am I writing this? My intention is twofold;

1. Challenge those who hold religious worldviews to consider the role of superstition in your beliefs. Because there is no scientific way to measure the “truth” of religious beliefs, the best measurement of a religious belief is its fruits. Does it make you a better person? Does it encourage you to take personal responsibility for your choices? Does it make you a more peaceful person, inside and out? Does it build love and goodwill in the world? Does it unite people and work for the betterment of all?

2. Articulate a non religious worldview that inspires high levels of integrity and satisfaction, meaning and morality, without the need for superstition. Personally, the main reason I’m interested in a non religious worldview is to rid my life of the fear and paranoia of superstition. I trust my mind and common sense to fill my life with meaning and optimism and to live my life with compassion and integrity, without imagining that there are any supernatural being(s) or creator behind it all. You only need open your eyes and mind. Everything you need is here and now.

In some upcoming articles, I will dig a little deeper into both the advantages and dangers of superstition, and finally propose that we emphasize intuition in place of superstition.

As Ataturk, or Mustafa Kemal, the first President of Turkey said,

We do not consider our principles as dogmas contained in books that are said to come from heaven. We derive our inspiration, not from heaven, or from an unseen world, but directly from life.

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Thursday, March 1, 2012

I wrote this week about living without defensiveness. There are four pieces to look over, summarized below.

1. The first was a response to the Oscars, and The Help in particular. Beat the cycle of defensiveness by not buying into other people’ drama. Click here to read more.


2. The second was a more pointed critique of institutional religion. As Bill Maher said, "Religion is dangerous; it allows human beings who don't have all the answers to think they do." Click here to read more. 
3. This is a piece I found online, and couldnt find an author so I adjusted it a little. Its an inspiring piece about the symptoms of living with spiritual freedom. It includes frequent attacks of joy and random bursts of laughter. Click here to read more.

4. Using the old kid's story Grandpa's Slippers, I wrote about letting go and moving on. Read more here.


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Friday, February 24, 2012

In preparation for the Academy Awards this weekend, I wrote this affirmation-
Most of us could be nominated for an Academy Award for playing the part of whoever we are pretending to be to gain the approval of our peers. Imagine if you could be completely at ease with who you are and let others be who they are. Stand at the dais and collect the life time achievement award for playing the best version of YOU.
Say to yourself: I am at ease in my own skin, at peace with myself.
I also wrote two articles
1. Not taking things personally- read more here
2. Learn to love yourself- read more here
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